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The romantic partner of the woman with traits of BPD will soon find that although she demands complete adherence to the relationship rules from him, she is incapable of holding up her own end of the bargain.
Many nice-guy types are willing to accept these flaws.
There is, however, a more ominous side to this seemingly perfect union.
This ability holds a special attraction for women with traits of BPD. She has an overriding fear of relationship betrayal.
Most people imagine that this kind of fear centers around the more obvious forms of betrayal such as infidelity or relationship abandonment.
Their focus and commitment to their relationship keeps them on the straight and narrow. Because women with traits of BPD are not capable of withstanding any kind of betrayal, the nice-guy type’s ability to override selfish impulses and give to her consistently turns him into her perfect knight in shining armor.
She believes he will provide her with the kind of guarantee that she knows she must have in order to feel safe in a relationship.