Dating tips at cinema
No matter how shitty of a day you had at work, or whether the restaurant you’re at has terrible service, or the movie you saw is total crap—try your best to stay positive when getting to know someone.It’ll alleviate any anxiety he’s having about whether he’s showing you a good time, and it’ll just make you more fun to be around, pure and simple. ‘Do aim for something to do on a first date, like a walk by the river,’ says relationship and first date tip expert Elizabeth Sullivan, aka The Love Mentor. The more at ease you are the more likely he’ll follow suit. ‘Do smile more than usual and laugh if you like him,’ says Sullivan.‘Pick a route where you know there’s a nice pub and, if it’s going well, stop off. ‘Make sure he knows you’re enjoying yourself.’ (Do we need to spell out that there are limits to the smiling/laughing thing?So, you met a cool person who you’re about to go out with. That said, there a few fairly concrete dos and don’ts to keep in mind when hanging out with someone totally new—just remember that it’s all about making a solid first impression to land a second date with someone you really like. It’ll ensure that you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too.
‘If you’re genuinely interested in him, the conversation will flow.’ If you’re curious and ask about him, it will also make you less self-conscious (first date tip: beware over-enthusiastic questioning. ‘Be aware of yourself as you sit with him,’ says Sullivan.
‘Your natural response to him is the best litmus test to working out if he’s a good match.’ Anything I shouldn’t say? ‘That said, if he’s super-emotionally intelligent and does get you, don’t let him get away.’ Do see a first date as an opportunity to assess him. (Everyone’s done it and we all know it’s a kind way of saying, ‘See ya! ‘The worst excuse I’ve ever heard was a man who said he had to leave because this was normally his admin night and he had loads of bills to pay.’ Sheesh! Do put across a true version of yourself if, perhaps, a bit better than you are (oh come off it, we all do it). There’s no point pretending you’re a gym bunny who spends her weekends hiking, when an afternoon of shopping in Westfield leaves you shattered.
‘Don’t talk about the time you were fired, or when your friend caught you having sex with her boyfriend. In fact, steer away from other men/exes territory all together.’ You don’t have to come across all super-positive, but don’t dwell on current problems on a first date – opening up can come with time. ‘Save the Catwoman outfit for the third date,’ advises Sullivan. Do listen when he’s talking (rather than trying to think of what to say next), and don’t expect him to “get” you the way your friends do immediately. ‘If you find yourself thinking he’s fantastic, cut that thought dead,’ says Sullivan. Say it silently to yourself.’ (Silently, people.) ‘Say “I’m fantastic”.’ ‘Do be nice to him, but don’t make him more important than he is.’ Soooo…how do I get out early? ‘It takes nerves but you could say, “I’ve had a nice time but don’t think this will go anywhere.
There’s nothing more rude than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly stating at a screen.
Checking Instagram can wait—and definitely don’t post any status updates, tweets about your date in real-time, or snap any candid pics when they’re not looking. A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply ask questions.