Dating an older man with children
Since I realize my advice is very one-sided, and I really don't know anything about you or your love interest, I want to offer you a different perspective. Ava Cadell, Love Guru, Therapist, Author, and founder of Loveology University.Here is what she had to say: "Why are you thinking about problems that don't exist? I know he's not old enough to really be my father, but he's up there.It's really a case of two kindred spirits being separated by a lot of numerical years. - Old Soul, 27 Dear Old Soul, Just the fact that you are presenting this question makes me wonder if you already know the answer.I'm not saying it couldn't work; I'm just asking you to think beyond the immediate comfort and initial honeymoon phase, evaluate your doubts and the source of those doubts, and ask yourself if this is what you really want.After thinking it through, if you believe he is still your soul match, then don't let the age gap get in your way.In my opinion, there is a lot more than just 15 years that separates you from your 42-year-old boyfriend.He's had a heck of a lot more life experience than you have.
You mentioned that you are not trying to live out some father figure fantasy.
" I echo her word of caution and circle back to the simple truth that you are having doubts.
Some say love is blind and ageless, but a sustainable relationship is built on a lot more than just love alone. Just think about having children in your thirties, and chasing around toddlers with a man in his late forties.
What I realized is that I was trying to skip over my own twenty-something experience by coat-tailing his life.
Sure, we had the same kind of connection you speak about and I really did feel like we were kindred sprits in a lot of ways; however, the unavoidable truth was that we were at very different points of our lives.