Dating a sociopath woman
I have come to realized that I had started developing coping mechanisms of denial and minimizing in order to deal with the stress.The effects of this emotional abuse over time have caused me emotional trauma, including depression and anxiety. All my love, Her name Sweetheart, It was difficult to read some of the things that you wrote in your e-mail to me, but I can accept that you feel that way.We still don't know where narcissism comes from: some psychologists link it to borderline personality disorder, others believe it conceals a serious lack of self-esteem (something self-aware narcissists themselves dispute), and still others have linked it with neglect as children.The newest study thinks kids who are over-praised but under-loved as kids are most likely to become narcissists — but we're still essentially groping in the dark.At times I feel guilty and like I have to walk on eggshells just to keep less stress in my life. You make excuses for your behaviour, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing especially in a timely manner. You blame me for your problems, life difficulties and unhappiness. You give me unpleasant labels and make cutting remark. You get emotionally distant and emotionally unavailable a lot of the time. You disengage and use neglect and abandonment to punish me (like sleeping on the couch or the kids rooms). You don’t seem to notice or care about my feelings. You view me as an extension of your ex-husband, rather than as me the individual. You withhold sex as a way to manipulate, punish and control. You deny your emotionally abusive behaviour when I have brought it to your attention. I hate to admit it but I don’t see it getting better I don’t see a future with you. You have been telling me weekly “this is my house.” “This is my room.” “I need to rent someplace where you won’tdisturb me.” “You talk too loud on thephone.” “The TV is too loud.” “What? ” My presence use to be appreciated now it appears I am an annoyance. I am wasting so much of my valuable life with someone who does not respect or cherish me.
I assumed and believed it was all growing pains of us getting to know each other and learning each other.But I found that I had to leave the joy in the moment. You withdraw your affection and attention to punish me. I wish you would own up fully to what you have done and stop making excuses and blaming others. Accept responsibility and recognize that your abusive behavior is a choice. It was obvious that you wanted me out of your house because you didn’t want any more of my clothes there. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know the things that have been making you uncomfortable. I don’t want to take a break from you but I do think that this is something that we will need to discuss in order to be able to move forward. I care about you deeply as a person and hope to continue to enjoy your company.I could not assume that because you smiled a minute ago that the smile would be there when I looked again. Accept the consequences of your actions and behaviors. I have noticed a change in my demeanour, appearance, and self-esteem as a result of being in our relationship. Well, you wanted your house back and my clothes out of your closet. I will review things more later, but I want you to know that I care about you and love you very much. I do hope that we will continue to talk on the phone and keep up with each other.I found this website (and I am glad I did) and reading so many posts about recovery from abuse put me in the right direction for healing and recovery. I have since learned that I was being abused by a Female Narcissistic Sociopath.Even though I did not know at the time the exact label to place on her activity I knew in my gut that things were not normal. I also learned that I should have no contact and keep no contact. Below is the letter I sent to her before I knew who or what I was dealing with Her Name: It is probably a good thing that I am going away at this time as things are not working out for you and I.