Dating a married man and self esteem
They have a prior claim on his time and his loyalty. You will not be able to discuss matters with them, and they certainly won't be welcoming him into their inner circle.* When you're out on town, he'll frequently look over his shoulder, not wanting to be seen in your company.When you're alone together, he'll often check his watch, needing to be home before his wife gets suspicious, He'll never be able to relax completely.You'll be an objct of pity and many will wonder what's wrong with you, and why you can't find a boyfriend.* Life is short and youth is fleeting. If they're old enough to remember that he left their mother because of you, it will be difficult to become an effective stepparent.* These are only a few of the problems you'll encounter, if you allow yourself to fall in love with a married man.You are wasting valuable time when you should be laying a firm foundation for a bright future with someone you can trust. You deserve so much better than this two-timer.* To him, it's a fling, an enjoyable interlude in a marriage which is comfortable, but may have become routine. Use your willpower and your common sense and walk in the opposite direction as quickly as you can.She makes you feel grateful for all she's done for you, but when you step back and really look at this playing field, is it actually A Borderline wife who's urged her man to go elsewhere for comfort, will use the affair against him, from the moment he attaches to someone else.
Long after a husband/father leaves that marriage, his ex-wife portrays herself as the victim of his "cheating," but his kids never get to see who's actually lit that keg of dynamite, nor comprehend the relational upsets that forced him to look elsewhere for comfort.Stolen moments with you provide elements of thrill and danger to an otherwise humdrum existence.* Even if he says he's ready to leave home and set up household with you, consider this: If wife No. As the old adage states, "There's plenty of fish in the sea".Why waste your valuable time, attention and talent on a stale, second-hand junk variety, who was hooked by someone else years ago?This doesn't mean you won't get a crumb or two along the way (if she --and you'll pass it off as such.As the years go by, you're faced with the dreadful awareness that this 'phase' has become permanent--but it's impossible to leave, without severe financial repercussions.